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Tuesday 3 June 2014

A midwife's personal journey into supporting birth honestly


Elly Copp is a guest blogger today.



 Photo: Elly Copp

Elly is a hospital midwife working in a birth centre in the south-west of the UK.  She is also an integrative therapist in private practice in Bristol and where she lives, in Somerset.  I first 'met' Elly on twitter over a year ago and liked her approach to midwifery, women and birth. I was interested in Elly's many 'hats' and how she managed to work within the system with her approach to women and their families. I invited Elly to write a piece for this blog to share her rich understanding and experience and here it is.

Enjoy!

Elly writes:

"I recently attended a conference on “Attachment, Loss and Significant Change” which taught me such rich and relevant information that I have been able to synchronise all my learning for the first time. This experience feels like a culmination of years of process which has made a direct and immediate improvement to my work as a midwife and mentor.

The two presenters, experts in their fields, shared their knowledge with us:

Sir Richard Bowlby, spoke about his father, Sir John Bowlby and his work on attachment theory. He identified the key needs we all have in order to survive our life, which begins as early as birth. By the third trimester, a baby is equipped with senses, feelings, reflexes and a personality. We are born ready to make contact with our parents. Attachment is a core need and initiates in us a sense of belonging and feeling ok in the world.
Conversely, the effects of not having our needs met in the early days and not being ‘seen’ just as we are, is likely to have long lasting effects on health and relationships. Considering the impact on a baby when she loses her mother temporarily or permanently will have us all unsettled as we don't like the idea of it or how it felt when that was our experience. As midwives we are in a prime position to assist at these moments of a person’s life: mother, father and new baby, the evidence is there and now our challenge is to bring it into our daily work. The rewards for us as individuals will fuel more courage, compassion and love we have for ourselves and the women we meet.

The second speaker, Dr Una Mccluskey, talked about the roles of care seeking and care giving and the dynamic between the two. In our world these are the roles of ‘mothers’ and ‘midwives’. Midwives with good attunement antenna will pick up the ‘state’ a mother is in and will consider the next appropriate step. Dr Mccluskey says it's what the care giver does with that knowledge which is important. In order that she does that effectively, a midwife has to be aware of her own state, her own ability to regulate her internal system. This ability to self-regulate takes attention, commitment and support.

When fear diminishes, the ability to explore and be curious expands. That is true for midwives and the women they care for.  When we model our own state we see it mirrored and replicated. In her book “Why Love Matters" Sue Gerhardt looked at effects of being and feeling loved. When young people experienced no or poor attachment the consequence on their internal regulatory system was an inability to find equilibrium and resulted in negative, anti-social behaviours. What is known is that we do not manage so well in life if we have not felt the feeling of being loved and cared for, cherished, touched and cuddled by our mother or a mother like figure, a person who will stay with us long enough to understand us and regulate our internal state, and will keep coming back to us, again and again.

Watching film clips of mothers and their babies interacting and learning the theories behind this brings to life vividly the need for a secure attachment from the start, as well as feeling empathy for the newborn, the impact of a secure attachment for the baby on lifelong health is absolutely clear.
I consider myself very lucky , because I have been involved in some very profound births .I am often moved to tears and have the sense that I have been appreciated at a very deep level of the mothers'  being. These spiritual births where I feel a connection with the mother often come after she has experienced a traumatic time in a previous labour and birth .My understanding is that these women had been holding their trauma in mind and body and are very relieved to be able to let it go and feel pleasure, happiness and wonder in a birthing environment. It is my quest to remain open, available, curious and exploratory and I offer these mothers the same, and work very hard not to move myself or be manoeuvred or coerced by others into a fear state. The ability to translate that knowledge into practice is transformational and meaningful for the mother, the father the baby, the midwife and the student midwife.

As a midwife of 20 years, I am familiar with the realm of labour and birth and work in a birth centre where the environment is spacious. I learn here, and carry that knowledge to other places I go to, such as the delivery suite or ante /post natal ward for example. Even in a different environment I bring with me the assumption that this doesn't have to change a woman’s ability to birth and bond, and the baby to attach. When the environment is out of our control, we can still make it work, as everyone needs a supportive and companionable attachment system wherever they are.

A recent birth demonstrated to me how it is possible for a mother to change her physiology and emotional state when the people she has supporting her are present, being in the now, mindful and observant. I wish to share this with the intention that midwives reading this will be motivated to make their own deliberate but subtle and invisible switch in their own understanding and response. All the names have been changed to maintain confidentiality.

As a hypnotherapist, I am familiar with the mind and how it works, the limbic system, the cognitive brain and how the two are affected by each other and the environment. Dr Stephen Porges describes the neurophysiological foundations of attachment, emotions, communication and self-regulation so well in his book “The Polyvagal Theory ". It is quite manageable to digest and process the theory, the difficulty is making theory useful practically in such a busy environment where risk is calculated and expectations and therefore stress is high.

"Help for the Helper" by Babette Rothschild discusses how roles can get confused when boundaries are not maintained, the mirror neurones in our brain mean that before we realise it, care seekers are mirroring and mimicking the care givers own state.

It is significant that working in a fear state a lot of the time is not helpful or healthy for us, and has a part to play in burnout. We have a real vested interest to self-care and ensure we regulate our systems frequently to maintain our health. This is extra difficult when we are working a shift pattern which is pre-arranged for us. Add to that the variety of work needing to be attended to, which can be acute and immediate for a short or prolonged time, plus no breaks and the situation for the midwife can become untenable.

When a midwife is in fright / flight mode herself she needs to become aware and notice it quickly so she can shift it. Her brain will prevent any connectivity or attunement as long as it it is focused on anxiety. In such a situation the midwife cannot create a safe birthing environment; instead she becomes distracted and loses focus. No one is grounded, no one is self-regulating. 

Dr Mccluskey stated that in supportive relationships, a genuine response must match the depth of the other person’s situation; Women will know it if we show mixed messages. The words need to match our actions for us to be seen and trusted by the women in our care to have faith in us She states: " we are all hard wired to care for other people, to seek care for ourselves and to pursue interests " As midwives in a work environment where the care we give is increasingly scrutinised and critiqued retrospectively, seeking care for ourselves and pursuing interests can be the aspects where we are not so successful, and therefore less able to self-care. In addition our workload becomes greater and visibility around each other is reduced.
For a mother, when the fright /flight brain is in ascendance, dissociation from the self, the body and the baby will result (as a survival technique), it will not be easy for her to experience an empowered birth. I believe that when doctors, midwives, anaesthetists and health care assistants operate collectively from this place of flight/fright, disconnect is a constant presence.

When women can be in a calm and regulated state there is sufficient capacity for them to utilise internal resources, to stay exploratory and look for ways to cope. Ultimately they give birth in an engaged and connected way.

When a midwife successfully regulates her own internal state, the woman she is with can be in touch with her own skills necessary to deal with any upset. We are facilitating an environment within which a woman can build her own competence in the world, which is what she will simultaneously be passing on to her baby. Having worked in a birth centre since 2008, I have found my own ability to problem solve and find solutions has expanded and that is apparent in the confidence I have and pass to the parents I meet.

I am also a Bowen technique practitioner (Bowen is a way of working with the fascia and muscle spindles which rebalances the body via the vestibular system). During a Bowen session, a body can restore health and vitality to the best of its ability. There are clear parallels between Bowen and birth, because the same environmental conditions are required for best outcome. Michel Odent commented " an ideal situation for a mother to birth in is where there is as little interference to the mother’s natural process as possible: speaking, feeling cold, feeling unsafe and bright lights are stimulation which is not conducive to giving birth."

What seems to be happening during a Bowen session is that the body is allowed to re-orient to a memory of a previously healthy state or an original blue print of health. Many of the moves are made on areas significant during embryological development (John Wilks, The Bowen Technique). Like the mind and its ability to move from a fear state into a calm state, the body can do too, physiological changes occur when liquid crystals in the cells which hold memory and have the capacity to register a new experience which are highly receptive to change are touched.
Sheila Kitzinger writes about birth crises and the effects on bonding with the baby as well as any future births. Where a woman has experienced a shocking birth experience and felt helpless and out of control, that memory of helplessness stays with her. If she does some work to recover from her trauma, restore her self-esteem and confidence, she can experience healing in advance of her next birth. If she's doesn't, her bonding and attachment with her next baby will be negatively affected
Sir Richard says:
“If she doesn't recognise that state and therefore remains static she cannot release the dynamic energy needed to give birth to her next baby. She becomes stuck in her thoughts and in her muscles. This is visible in the way a mother uses her body in labour, during and in-between contractions, her posture, her eye contact and how she expresses herself and receives support”.

Putting all this into practice is sometimes straight forward and sometimes very complex. The woman I met called Suzy* and her husband John* seemed initially to be quite a simple care in labour, part of my daily work, but moved into a more complicated area as she moved through her labour and some details emerged.

Two years ago. Suzy had been in labour with her first baby in the pool, and out of the blue, the midwife became worried about the baby's heart rate. Suzy was rushed and hurried along a long corridor to the obstetric theatre where her daughter Imogen was born by forceps. It happened fast. Suzy and John were handed Imogen after a while when she was dressed. There were no other concerns about her health; the perceived concerns about her wellbeing during labour had not affected her wellbeing at birth. This aspect was never discussed though, and the couple were not given any more information about what had happened.

Suzy and John decided to have another baby a year later, but Suzy was very worried about how the birth would go during the second pregnancy. She only told John about this, he was as supportive and kind as he could be. He couldn't see they had any choices.  Suzy started her labour in the early hours and they drove to the birth centre, she wanted to use the pool again but was plagued by lack of confidence, worry and fear about it. She questioned herself so much that she couldn't actually think any more. It was a busy night and the couple met 4 different midwives over 4 hours. Suzy began to panic that her contraction pattern was spacing out. She started to think that this was an impossible situation for her. She was kneeling and closing her eyes a lot of the time.

I entered the room and saw a lovely and supportive man talking gently to his wife and introduced myself and my student who is gentle and kind and softly spoken.

My colleague who was leaving thought that the birth was imminent so we waited for some signs; it was 07:30 am.

We watched and attuned to Suzy and through John we learned about their experience with Imogen. Suzy said it was awful, she had been worrying about it, she didn't want that to happen again but she was frightened it was heading the same way.

I am very careful about discussing previous births with couples because my experience is that it can detract from this baby, but on this occasion, the nature of Imogen's birth needed to be spoken about out loud because the residual fear seemed to be stopping Suzy from giving birth. It felt like an elephant in the room.

My thinking is always how do I give the woman my full and complete attention, my whole person support without judgement or a set of conditions - as well as give her free reign to find her own path to birth her baby. I wonder and worry that I may be perceived as unsupportive, disinterested or lazy. In "Birthing Normally” Gayle Petersen details birth stories where she has attuned herself to women’s fears and needs and in doing this, has enabled the mother to birth her baby herself without any interventions. Whilst Gayle knows the women she describes, I am unfamiliar with the women I meet and not knowing them I cannot know their preoccupations and concerns.

Nine o'clock now and I observe Suzy in a pickle, she is wanting it to be over, saying she can't do it and becoming increasingly negative, defeatist and a little self-centred; rejecting Johns loving support. In my calm state I am wondering how to move Suzy out of her fear state and back into exploratory without being dictatorial or overbearing.

Where is that internal space for her to connect with herself, find her resilience and prepare to meet her baby? Dr Mcclusky says we are moving inside ourselves with other people all the time, and that self-regulation goes on as background music. "We are born with the expectation of being met as a person” resonates within me, and I want that for Suzy so that her baby receives that meeting.

Meanwhile Suzy is becoming more despondent and closer to giving birth (9cm dilated). Is analgesia the right thing to offer? Is that kind and appropriate I ask myself? Maybe, but I think not is my internal answer.
After another of Suzy's desperate outbursts that "she cannot do it", I realise she is overwhelmed and I ask her 3 questions very carefully.

What does she need right now - she answers “not to feel any of this”

What does her baby need right now - “to be born quickly”

How can the two align?  A pause and then - “I had better get a grip", said with a sense of authority and humour.

John smiles at me, as if we have made a breakthrough, it feels like she has moved from her fear state to her maternal and problem solving state.

That is the moment the labour changes, because 30 minutes later and without any pushing at all her baby's head is born in the pool, the membranes are intact and still over his face when Suzy brings Harry to the surface.

We were all in tears, moved by her capacity to change and in how by releasing something negative from her past she became free to move energetically and give birth so smoothly.

A few hours later, we chatted it over and she said last time her birth had been taken away from her, she felt she had lost a part of herself which she hadn't realised until this birth. I told her what had been going through my mind about analgesia, and she agreed she had been thinking that too - I reflected how we had synchronised. She loved having so much skin to skin with her baby because that had not been included last time, and she valued us as helpers and enablers whilst we saluted her for her courage and commitment to her baby.

To conclude, I do not say that having this understanding will mean all births are going to be smooth or straightforward, but I do believe that seeing a woman for who she is gives her choices and with those choices she can make the best decisions for herself and her baby.
 
The approaches I use incorporate my knowledge of hypnosis and Bowen technique, directly and indirectly. Sometimes I use touch, and sometimes calm and reassuring suggestions. The midwifery training itself did not give me a good enough education to understand the minutiae and nuance of what birth entails. I was shocked when I was in labour with my first baby that my training had not prepared me for the realities of birth and what resources I needed. It has taken years of work and application, critique and evaluation to reflect on what holistic means and how to see women holistically. It is a journey not encouraged within the hospital system and finding my own identity has been a hard slog but one I could not avoid. My passion has stemmed from a mixture of sources and is maintained by the appreciation I receive from women and their families as well as colleagues and students. When a mentee says "all we are told about is litigation and self-protection" I worry a little bit more about the lack of self-awareness and acknowledgement these fledging midwives are being trained in.

The other motivation is personal: as a daughter, wife and mother of four, I have to keep working at all my relationships - and in trying, my efforts will be seen, and I will be met as a person. 

You can contact Elly via her email eleanorcopp@me.com and she tweets as @EleanorCopp

REFERENCES

Bowlby,EJM. (1997) Attachment: Volume 1 of the attachment and loss trilogy. (1st ed) UK:Vintage publishing. 

Gerhardt,S.(2004). Why love matters: how affection shapes a baby's brain.(1st ed.)UK:Brunner-Routledge.

Kitzinger,S.(2006). Birth Crises. (1st ed.).UK: Routledge.

McCluskey,U.(2005).To be met as a person: The dynamics of attachment in professional encounters.(1st ed) UK:Karnac. 

Peterson, G. (1984). Birthing Normally: a personal growth approach to childbirth (2nd ed.). USA: Shadow and Light.

Porges, S (2011) The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysical foundations of emotions attachment communication self-regulation. (1st ed) USA: W.W.Norton and company.

Rothschild,B.(2006) Help for the Helper: self care strategies for managing burnout and stress.(1st ed ) USA:W.W Norton and company.


Wilks,J (2007)The Bowen Technique: The inside story (1st ed) UK:CYMA LTD.

Monday 12 December 2011

Quotes for Midwives

My last meeting with the lovely midwifery students I've been working with in Papua New Guinea is this morning.

 Pacific Adventist University Midwifery Students PNG
I've been surfing the net, looking for quotes that relate to midwifery, women and birth that I thought would inspire them.   I've come across the following and thought I'd share them with you.
"You are a midwife, assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the baby is born, the mother will rightly say: “We did it ourselves!”  - From The Tao Te Ching
Speak tenderly to them. Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of our greeting. Always have a cheerful smile. Don’t only give your care, but give your heart as well. ~ Mother Teresa
Ask me for strength and I will lend not only my hand, but also my heart. ~ Unknown
If you lay down, the baby will never come out! ~ Native American saying
Offer hugs, not drugs ~ Adina Lebowitz
Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man (sic) will have discovered fire. ~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
  Just as a woman's heart knows how and when to pump, her lungs to inhale, and her hand to pull back from fire, so she knows when and how to give birth. ~Virginia Di Orio
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

For God hath not give us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. ~2Timothy 1:7
If I had my life to live over, instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished ever moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. ~Irma Bombeck

Making the decision to have a baby – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone

What's done to children, they will do to society. ~Karl Menninger

A woman
in harmony
with her spirit
is like
a river flowing.
She goes
where she will
without pretense
and arrives
at her destination,
prepared
to be herself
and only herself.
~Maya Angelou


Saturday 17 September 2011

King hit on the funny bone: Labia room

I love humour.
I love those people who have a great sense of humour. I'm always amazed when someone can come out with just the right response to a situation. I love it when something someone says is so funny, I laugh til tears roll down my face. Quirky, off beat, clever humour like that of the Monty Python team really appeals to me. I can watch their skits and movies over and over again.

However, unkind and derogatory put downs or sling offs aimed at those who are vulnerable I find rude, offensive and inappropriate, not funny.

I also love social media. I love the way the various forms of social media provide an easy and quick way to keep in touch and gain and share information. Twitter, for example, was invaluable to many as a tool of communication during the recent natural disasters. The ability to communicate over huge distances with a minumum of fuss has meant that social media is increasingly used as a tool for health promotion. With that ease of communication enabled by the various social media platforms has come concerns about privacy, online behaviour and confidentiality. A code of conduct for online behaviour, coined 'netiquette' has emerged.

Unfortunately for many, they think their conversations on social media are the same as in the tea room, pub or corridor.

They are not.

They are permanently recorded and therefore able to be read by anyone for all time. A good way to think about it is to consider that what you say on a social media platform is like writing it on the front page of a national newspaper. If you wouldn't want what you are going to say recorded in that way, then don't use social media for that conversation.

Many of us have written about the use of social media for health professionals. I wrote an article earlier this year for midwives in our college newsletter. Still I see indiscretion amongst my colleagues posts at times that I feel concerned about. I do wonder how those who use health care think about some of the comments that are made; how would prospective employers perceive such comments if they were to look.  My understanding is that human resource departments are using social media platforms to find out more about applicants.

So a blogpost about an interaction on twitter between male doctors by Ann Marie Cunningham, a GP and lecturer in Wales UK with an interest in social media caught my attention when she said:

"I came across a discussion between several male doctors on twitter which caused me to reflect on this very topic. The doctors were using slang, which I have not come across before, to refer to the wards in which they might have been working. The terms used were 'labia ward' and 'birthing sheds' to refer to the delivery suite where women give birth, and "cabbage patch" to refer to the intensive care ward where many patients are unconscious.

I was shocked at this and angry and did query the doctors about some of the other things they said, but I felt I couldn't challenge them directly at that time about this language. One of the doctors referred to midwifes as 'madwives'"

The blogpost "Social media, black humour and professionals" and the responses are well worth reading to get a sense of what the doctors themselves and the readers of Ann Marie's blog thinks about these remarks.  There are some very interesting comments on Ann Marie's blog itself, but by far the most fascinating reaction has come on Facebook on the The Medical Registrar's fanpage.

Alongside the link to Ann Marie's blog are the words:

The medical registrar " makes no comment, other than anyone who uses terms like "space" to describe a blog is a humourless old trout until proven otherwise"

The medical registrar didn't need to say anymore, because the readers have made up for it with 72 comments at the time of writing this post. These comments are also worth reading.

The attitudes and values of the people responding are clearly discernable. A former CEO of a large Boston hospital, Paul Levy, has discussed the response to Ann Marie's post on his blog.

Paul Levy wrote that he is 'left aghast' at the some of the comments and found the mindset of a few medical colleagues 'extremely upsetting'.

According to the good doctors however, using those terms "labia wards" and "birthing sheds" for rooms where women give birth and "cabbage patch" for ICU where people are unconscious is just good old fashioned humour, a way to let off steam in a stressful environment. Others, like me, find them offensive and degrading.

Is it purely a case of 'humorless old trouts'? or something else?

What do you think?





Tuesday 19 April 2011

Raising birthing consciousness: moving beyond cruelty to women and babies

I met a friend for breakfast this morning at a lovely little cafe on the shores of a local lake.  My friend is a Calmbirth practitioner and I have had 30 years in private midwifery practice. We are both passionate about sharing information and exploring ideas about birth and parenting with couples.  Our conversation involved a lot of animated discussion on the subjects dear to our hearts, including why women chose the care they do.

How women and their partners think about the birth of their babies and choose their care provider and their birth place is intriguing.  Women who sought out my midwifery care wanted to know who was going to be with them during their labour and birth, so building trust and understanding during pregnancy was an integral part of their plan. They wanted to ensure privacy and be in control of what happened to them and their baby.  They wanted continuity of care into the postnatal period for support. How their baby was born was something they considered deeply; they wanted their babies to be born gently, into a loving environment and for themselves to be as involved as possible.  These parents desired to be the first to touch their babies; they sought minimal intervention and to discover the sex of their children themselves.  They were fully aware that their baby was a conscious being who participated fully in the labour and birth experience.

According to my friend,  women who access her services don't realise there is any other choice but private or public medical care. They didn't consider public maternity care and didn't generally know about midwifery models of care. As they are generally privately insured, they want to "get their monies worth" by employing an obstetrician and having a private room in the hospital.  We discussed the way that employing a surgeon usually means you will end up with interventions and surgery.


I told my friend about a video on birth trauma that Gloria Lemay had shared on Facebook (see below) and a post Birth Abuse by Navel Gazing midwife.  Routine obstetric management of birth is shown in the video. The video is a compilation of clips are from women's own birth videos collected by a chiropractor and made into this short film. For those not habituated to medical care at birth, these scenes may be distressing, so please take care of yourself when watching this information.
 
Warning: If you are pregnant, it may be best to give this video a miss as you are better off watching beautiful birth films that inspire and support your birth vision.



Birth Trauma from Centre Quiropràctic Molins on Vimeo.


Both those items and the accompanying comments have really troubled me. That women still emerge from their birthing experiences feeling like they have been abused is a dreadful and indefensible underbelly of maternity care. I left the public system thirty years ago to go into private midwifery practice because of the abuse I'd observed. I've written about that in my master's dissertation.
 
My friend told me she had been very roughly examined vaginally during the birth of her first baby and how devasted she had felt after that experience.  She told me that she felt it was the beginning of her slide into severe postnatal depression with that child and the source of the tremendous fear that she felt with her second pregnancy.  My friend said that she didn't stand up for herself at the time and as she was a midwife she 'should have'.  Then she said something that really illuminated the whole issue of birth trauma and abuse for me. She said "I should have stood up for myself, but I didn't have the words to do it..."
 
I thought about the way that women trust their health care practitioner to do the right thing by them and believe their practitioner has their best interests at heart.  Obviously, when the practitioner is rough, or behaves differently to what the woman expects, the woman goes into a shock-like biobehavioural state and has a cognitive dissonance experience. Cognitive dissonance experiences are usually difficult to put into words at the time.

A comment on Navel Gazing midwife's blog explored the Roots of birth abuse. The comment sheds some light on the reasons why birth abuse occurs.  The big question is how do people (partners, family members, midwives, obstetric nurses, doulas, registrars, paediatricians etc) accept these atrocities committed in the name of obstetric 'care'? Mind you, there is conversation in the various tea rooms across the land that revolves around these issues and I know many doulas lament what they observe in labour wards.

Perhaps in the main, the focus of wanting the baby 'out' and 'alive' means the 'how' and the 'why' pales into insignificance until we 'wake up' to the actual brutality of what is accepted as routine obstetrical management. Until we wake up, we are blind to that reality. Blindness to anything other than that which the person is focused on is called 'inattentional blindness'.  An explanation for inattentional blindness can be found in the latest research on how certain neurons actively suppress visual data streaming into the brain. This research informs us that we are only aware of approximately 1% of what's going on around us.


My friend and I discussed ways to provide information to women and men about birth options and ways to raise consciousness about birth choices and effects. How do we help this generation of parents to understand that abdominal birth and vaginal birth are not equal; that the choices they make for their care will have profound effects on the outcomes and their experiences?  How do we create a culture where violence against women and babies, even that form of violence couched in terms of 'obstetric care' is unacceptable? How do we lay the foundation of kind, respectful woman centred care in maternity services? How women are treated in their most vulnerable state during childbearing provides a template for how society treats women generally. How do we help parents recognise and engage with the spirit and consciousness of the child that is embodying and being born?

Sunday 6 March 2011

Maternal intelligence: Calling the baby in

I've just read the most intense and illuminating blog post of a woman's birth story.

Rixa, of Stand and Deliver fame, posted the story of her baby Inga's unintended unassisted birth at home. One of my favourite comments, showing Rixa's wonderful presence of mind is when she was seeking to understand how close to birth she was...
"I knelt and reached inside. Sure enough, there was a hard round head about two knuckles deep. I felt around for a while, trying to figure out what was what. With all of the folded tissues and wrinkly baby’s head, it’s sometimes hard to tell where you end and baby begins!"
Baby Inga needed resuscitation, which Rixa did brilliantly.  You can see how Rixa managed the resuscitation of her baby with great mindfulness and focussed attention in the second video on her blog about Inga's birth.

Rixa explained that she had been certified in neonatal resuscitation a few years before. I'm not sure what other midwives do, but for anyone I considered could labour and birth quickly, I made a point of taking them through resuscitation of the newborn in case the baby arrived before I did. These days I recognise everyone needs that information, both for birth and beyond. We never know when those skills may come in handy; a woman told me that she was so glad I'd taught her as she had resuscitated a friend's child who fell in a swimming pool.

In terms of a newborn's transition to extrauterine life, certainly having the cord intact helps. Anyone who has seen a newborn with the cord clamped and cut immediately at birth would recognise the extra effort it takes for those babies to ground themselves and recover from the birth process.

Watching Rixa resuscitate her baby with five quick breaths and words of encouragement is a useful and informative experience for anyone to view. The way she talks to her baby is so important and I encourage mothers and fathers to do the same when they are in labour and when the baby is born.  "Calling the baby in" to its body is an essential part of the birth and transition to extrauterine life process and the importance is an understanding shared by Indigenous cultures and homebirth midwives. "Calling the baby in" is a recognition of the spiritual essence or consciousness of the baby and indicates an understanding of the way that the spirit can separate from the body (also known as 'out of body' experiences) during intensely emotional and/or challenging times. My personal view is that a mindfully aware, welcoming and lovingly focussed on the baby mother (and father) is the most important safety feature of labour and birth.

Rixa's birth and action to help her baby reminded me of the maternal intelligence in this video (following) of an elephant mother.  Some people may be offended by the association of an animal's behaviour with that of a human. However it is important to recognise that scientists use animals in all sorts of  ways to see how they respond to get insights into human experience and behaviour. Therefore it is highly appropriate to think about the commonalities in these two mothers and their attention to the needs of their newborn babies.  We are wiser with the way we treat animals as we realise we have to leave them alone to birth normally. We recognise that surveillance and well meaning intervention does more harm that good with animals. We have yet to fully appreciate that with human labour and birth.

The elephant mother is Nikki, her baby is Riski.  Note the mindful attending presence of the elephant mother and the way she calls her baby in. Watch the baby's eye as the spirit enters and stays.


Whatever your perspective about spirit, consciousness, birth, danger, surveillance, mother's innate intelligence, newborn babies resilience etc, these videos and the maternal intelligence that is evident in these videos invites us to think deeply about these matters.